Jacob Looked Up and There was Esau,
Coming with His Four Hundred Men

33: 1-17

Jacob looked up and there was Esau, coming with his four hundred men DIG: As Esau ran to meet Jacob, and as Ya’akov limped toward Esau, who was more surprised when they finally met? Why? Why was Easu no longer angry with Jacob?

REFLECT: Unrestrained fear can make God’s children do unhealthy things. How can you overcome fear with faith? When have you forgiven an offense against you? When have you needed forgiveness? What can you learn about forgiveness from Esau’s example? How important is it for people to agree on boundaries within their relationships? What type of boundaries might be appropriate? What are some ways to demonstrate a genuine desire for reconciliation in a broken relationship?

The next day, Jacob crossed the River Jabbok back to the southern bank. No sooner did he return to his family, than he looked up and there was Esau, coming with his four hundred men. As a final precaution, he divided his family into three groups. He divided the children with their mothersLeah, Rachel and the two maidservants Bilhah and Zilpah. The rabbis teach that he arranged them to give protection to those he loved the most. He put the maidservants and their children in front, Leah and her children next, and Rachel and Joseph in the rear (33:1-2). Jacob’s favoritism of Joseph was displayed long before he gave him his coat of many colors (37:23 NKJ). He himself went on ahead of the three groups. If Esav chose to attack, Jacob would take the brunt of it, while his wives and children could possibly escape. These are not the actions of a coward. He bowed down to the ground seven times as he approached his brother (33:3). This was common in ancient eastern protocol. Ya’akov recognized Esav as ruler of the region.

Jacob had sufficiently prepared for his traumatic meeting with his estranged brother Esau. Before the wrestling match, Jacob had mad all sorts of preparations. But it seems that none of that really mattered. When they saw each other for the first time in more than twenty years, Esau ran to meet Jacob and embraced him; he threw his arms around his neck and kissed him. Jacob was a different man than he was twenty years previously, but so was Esav. Being an earthy, worldly man, Esau had obtained everything a worldly man could have. Like Jacob, he had several wives and twelve sons, he was wealthy and powerful, being the king of Edom.   The rabbis did not believe that Esau actually came to kiss Jacob. They interpreted this, and kissed him, to mean that he came and bit him. Twenty years of emotion came on like a flood and they wept (33:4). For a while, neither brother could speak a word. Each had doubts and fears about the other for so long, and now that those fears were gone, it was too wonderful for words. God had transformed them both.

ADONAI can also transform us, and resolve the conflict that is the result of our character flaws. Sometimes we pray that God would work in the otherperson’s life so that we can be at peace with them. But perhaps we need to be willing to pray that the Lord would change us, that he would take away our bitterness, overcome our habits, help us to step back from our expectations, and take away our pride. We must be willing to cut these things out of our lives. The first step is to trust the Master Surgeon.

A remarkable story about transformation from hate and hostility to healing and harmony is found in the intertwined lives of Mitsuo Fuchida and Jacob DeShazer. The former expressed his hatred for the white demons as the pilot who led the attack on Pearl Harbor. The latter was an American bombardier involved in bombing raids against the despised Japanese in Doolittle’s Tokyo raid. After their respective famous raids, DeShazer had the harder time. Without enough fuel to return to the aircraft carrier, he and the other members of his crew abandoned the plane deep in Chinese territory, parachuting to what they hoped was safety. Unfortunately, they landed in an area held by the Japanese, and he spent over three years as a prisoner of war. A trial in Tokyo sentenced him to death, and that frequently seemed preferable to the abusive conditions he and his fellow prisoners were forced to endure.

Needless to say, this only increased the hate he felt for his captors. When his death sentence was commuted to life imprisonment, it was little consolation. But one of his comrades was a believer. About halfway through the period of imprisonment the man died and somehow, as a result, the prisoners were given a Bible by the Japanese. They all began to read it. This led to DeShazer’s conversion.

Suddenly I discovered that God had given me new spiritual eyes, and that when I looked at the Japanese officers and guards who had starved and beaten my companions and me so cruelly, I found my bitter hatred for them changed to loving pity. I realized that these Japanese did not know anything about my Savior and that if Messiah is not in a heart, it is natural to be cruel.

When Americans parachuted into the camp at the end of the war and released the prisoners, DeShazer returned home. But by then he was determined that He was going to be a missionary to the Japanese. He returned to Japan in 1948, where his preaching to the Japanese impressed them with how his hatred had turned to love. Eventually even some of those who had been his guards responded to his message and gave their lives to Yeshua.

While DeShazer suffered the torment of the POW camp, Fuchida became a national hero. He took place in numerous raids. His life was miraculously spared at the end of the war when he was called home to headquarters and was partway through a series of meetings in Hiroshima the day before the atomic bomb was dropped. But God had different plans for Fuchida. While taking a train to testify at war crimes trials, he received a tract about the life-changing experience of DeShazer.

Since the American pilot had found something in the Bible, I decided to purchase one myself, despite my traditionally Buddhist heritage. In the ensuing weeks, I read the Bible eagerly. I came to the climactic drama – the Crucifixion. I read Luke 23:24 the prayer of Jesus Christ at his death, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.” I was impressed that I was certainly one of those for whom He had prayed. The many men I had killed had been slaughtered in the name of patriotism; for I did not understand the love which Christ wished to implant within every heart.

In 1950, Fuchida committed his life to Messiah. Despite the disbelief of his friends and scornful accusations from countrymen, Fuchida’s resolve remained strong, and he became a traveling evangelist for the gospel of Christ. He too had put his hatred behind him.

The years drew Fuchida and DeShazer close together as brothers in the faith. Once bitter enemies, now they were brothers through the saving power of Yeshua Messiah. The ultimate example of ADONAI’s ability to overcome hostility and change character in these two men was seen time and time again as they preached together, telling of the Lord’s love at rallies and conventions.513

Then after some time, Esau looked up and saw the women and children. He asked: Who are these with you? Jacob answered: They are the children God has graciously given your servant. Then the maidservants and their children approached and bowed down. Next, Leah and her children came and bowed down. Last of all came Joseph and Rachel, and they too bowed down (33:5-7).

After seeing Jacob’sfamily, Esau saw the large flocks and herds of animals that were still with Ya’akov. This reminded him of the five groups of animals he had met as he approached Jacob the day before. Although the shepherds had told him they were gifts from his brother, he respectfully inquired: What do you mean by all these droves I met? Ya’akov replied: To find favor in your eyes, my lord. But Esav had also become wealthy anddidn’t need it. I already have plenty, my brother. The gift Jacob had given him was larger than some cities gave to kings as tribute and it seemed that the gift was much too large. Esau said: Keep what you have for yourself (33:8-9).

But Jacob insisted. No, please! said Ya’akov. If I have found favor in your eyes, accept this gift from me. For to see your face is like seeing the face of God, now that you have received me favorably. He knew Esau didn’t need it in a material sense, but he pleaded: Please accept my present, literally meaning my blessing, that was brought to you. This was a reference to the patriarchal blessing now to be shared with Esau. And the reason was: for God has been gracious to me and I have all I need. In Hebrew it actually says: I have everything. Esau had plenty, but Jacob had everything because God had blessed him beyond measure. And because Ya’akov insisted, Esau accepted it (33: 10-11). A refusal to receive a present is, throughout the East, interpreted as an evidence of hostility. This is why Jacob was anxious about Esav accepting this gift.

No doubt, the two brothers then spent considerable time in telling each other all that had happened since they had separated twenty years earlier. They had a lot to catch up on. Esau had a large family and great possessions (36:1-8), and had undergone many experiences, which he shared with his brother. Jacob told him about his stay in Haran, and how ADONAI had led him through the years. No doubt Ya’akov was anxious to hear about his parents. Rebekah had probably died by this time, and Isaac was not only blind, but also completely incapacitated with age. Isaac died when he was 180 years old, and was probably about 160 when Jacob returned to Canaan.514

Isaac was living in Hebron, where he later died. Esau assumed that Jacob would be traveling south in that direction. Apparently the four hundred armed horsemen were not meant to attack Ya’akov, but escort him home. Esau said: Let us be on our way; I’ll accompany you. But Jacob said to him: My lord knows that the children are young and that I must care for the ewes and cows that are nursing their young. Ya’akov knew that Esau’s men would be annoyed with the slow pace they would have to follow, wanting to get back home as soon as possible. Jacob’s caravan, on the other hand, would need to move very slowly. If they are driven hard just one day, all the animals will die. So let my lord go on ahead of his servant, while I move along slowly at the pace of the droves before me and that of the children. I will come to visit my lord in Seir at a later time. As history gradually unfolded, Mount Seir became the homeland of the Edomites, who were descendants of Esau (to see link click IoThe Wives and Sons of Esau). Seir is the region which is present-day Jordan. What is interesting is that even in the time of Jacob’s return to Canaan, Easu apparently had already been living in the region of Mount Seir. Genesis 32:16 below tells us that Esav went back to Seir. Finally, in Joshua 24:4 we are told that ADONAI Himself assigned Seir to be Edom’s homeland.

Then Esav said: Then let me leave some of my men with you. But why do that, Jacob asked: Just let me find favor in the eyes of my lord (33:12-15). This was a polite refusal, saying that there was no need for an armed escort. It was a great blessing to see his brother, but they were still vastly different from one another. They would see each other again at their father’s funeral (35:29), but Jacob wisely determined that they needed to live their lives separately to achieve their own destinies.

So that day Esav went south on his way back to Seir. Ya’akov, however, could not bring himself to live in close contact with Esau, and he went north to Succoth on the east side of the Jordan River outside of the Promise Land, where he built a place for himself and made shelters for his livestock. That is why the place is called Succoth which is the Hebrew name for booths or shelters (33:16-17). The rabbis teach that Jacob stayed there for eighteen months, first living in booths in the summer, then in a house in the winter, and then another summer in the booths again.

Even though the text states that Jacob and Esau agreed to meet each other in Seir, there is no indication that Jacob ever went there! But their respective descendants would meet in Seir! A few centuries later, when the children of Isra’el were freed from their slavery in Egypt they made their way to the Promised Land. But when they attempted to pass through Edom, the king of Edom refused Moshe’s request for passage, instead, he sent a powerful army out to stop them (see the commentary on Numbers Dj – The Resistance of Edom). The arrogance and air of superiority of Esau towards his brother had evidently filtered down through the generations before he had a change of heart upon meeting Jacob. It was too late to change their culture. Blood is blood and reconciliation and peace between brothers is of great importance and never impossible. But, we learn from these biblical texts that when the conflict is so bitter and so long, even making a momentary peace like between Jacob and Esau his brother there is no guarantee that the next generations will not awake the demon from the bottle and release it to not only start the enmity over and again, but make it more bitter and violent than before by repeating some of the mistakes of the past on either or both sides.

Even though Ya’akov had just come down from his mountaintop experience with pre-incarnate Messiah at the Jabbok River, Jacob had forgotten his vow to return to Bethel (28:20-21)ADONAI had even reminded Ya’akov of this when He had called him to leave Haran (31:3). But Jacob put it out of his mind and settled down, for a time, in earthly ease and prosperity in the city of Shechem. Like Lot, Jacob settled within sight of a godless Canaanite city. But because of his disobedience, trouble would be waiting for him there.